How to Save Your Marriage | How War Room Saved Our Marriage

Couples are always looking for ways to keep their marriages from ending in divorce. But what if there was a way that you could save your marriage before it even gets to the point of getting divorced? This post will give you proven advice as well as some of our personal experiences. Watch the video for a personal testimony of how the movie “War Room” was a catalyst along with the tips shared below.

Do not put work, recognition and ambition before God and your marriage.

• A lot of couples are going through tough times in their marriage. It is normal for relationships to have ups and downs, but it is not always easy when you’re trying your hardest to make things work and it doesn’t seem like things will ever be “normal” again.
  • The truth is that a healthy relationship can only survive if both persons put God first; this means that no matter what happens at the workplace or even with children, there needs to be time set aside every day for prayer and Bible reading together as a couple.

Fight all your battles on our knees.

• Pray without ceasing!
  • If there is one thing that will save your marriage, it is prayer. It is a cliche but it’s true – you have to make the effort! Not just praying for each other or praying about problems in the world, but truly talking to God and being honest with Him about all your struggles. You will find that He can do more than any earthly person could ever hope to achieve.

Establish a routine.

• For your marriage:
  • It is easy to get caught up in the day-to-day busyness of life as a couple but establishing a routine for your marriage is worth it. The following are some ideas on how to create a reliable schedule that will help keep you connected.
  • 1) Start by setting aside time each week where you can plan for the upcoming week and talk about anything on your mind, without any distractions. This time should be set aside no matter what else is going on with work or children – if something comes up, just reschedule that time slot later into the week.
  • 2) Find one night per week when you have nothing planned and spend quality uninterrupted time together. Make this event special, such as ordering takeout food.

Find time to do things.

• That you enjoy together as a couple:
  • It can be difficult as a couple when looking to find time to do things you enjoy together. Balancing work, family commitments and other aspect of your life can make you feel overwhelmed. Here are some helpful tips for finding time!
  • 1) Make a plan of what you want to do: Sit down with your partner and make a list of all the activities that you would like to do together. 2) Prioritize the items on your list: Think about which ones are most important or which ones have been put off too long already.
  • 3) Put them in order: The first one should be at top of the list, then go from there alphabetically so it is easier when scheduling them in your calendar 4) Schedule out time: This is recorded to ensure that the activities are engaged, whether daily, weekly, or monthly.

Keep communication lines.

• Always open:
  • Lack of communication is one of the most common reasons for failed relationships.  Every relationship needs to be nourished with open dialogue and honest communication. This is important as things can quickly spiral out of control as little issues become big problems that are never resolved.
  • To avoid this in your own relationship, make sure you talk about everything on your mind- even if it’s something small or seemingly insignificant at the time. It will help keep a healthy balance and allow you both to grow together instead of apart over time.

Discuss things with each other.

• Instead of avoiding them or shutting down in anger:
  • The next time you and your partner are fighting, instead of shutting down or yelling back at each other, try talking to one another. To have a more productive conversation about the topic (whatever it may be) ask your partner what they want from this discussion.
  • Then listen to them without interrupting before responding with what you want from the conversation. This way you can address both sides of the issue together and come up with a solution that works for both of you!

Be patient, understanding.

• And open to compromise:
  • Couples are sometimes faced with difficult and stressful situations, but it is important to remember that these moments can be overcome by communication, patience, understanding and a willingness to compromise. When you find yourself in an argument or disagreement with your partner do you ever stop to think about what the other person is feeling? The answer is probably no because we are so focused on our own emotions that we do not take time to put ourselves in their shoes.
  • It is important to understand where they are coming from before taking any action. Relationships require work and there will always be disagreements between partners but if you want your relationship to last then both parties need to make compromises for one another as well as communicate effectively when they disagree.

Make a plan for how to fix it.

• And stick to it:
  • The best way to get your relationship back on track is by making a plan. This includes identifying what you two can do together, and separately, that will help repair the damage. The plan should include both short-term fixes and long-term goals for the relationship.
  • Make sure to set deadlines for these tasks so there is a tangible goal for progress in order to keep momentum going! Do not forget it’s not just about fixing things; it’s also about taking care of yourself too!

Give each other space when necessary.

• It’s important to have alone time so that you can recharge yourself:
  • It is important to give each other space when necessary, or the relationship can be negatively impacted. We all need alone time to recharge our batteries and maintain balance in a relationship. When you make an effort to have some personal space from your partner, it will help keep things fresh and exciting!
  • After the two of you have enjoyed some private time apart, here are some ways for couples to stay connected: go on a date with friends; take up a new hobby; do something outside of your comfort zone if you are feeling adventurous.